We don’t know what’s to blame but there seems to be an exponential rise in the number of sex problems that men suffer from and we get to hear about it every single day on our Q&A section. Every single day we receive numerous sex-related queries from men. Here are some of the top ones:
Impotency or erectile dysfunction seems to be the most serious problem afflicting Indian men. At least half of the sex-related questions deal with men who are suffering erection-related problems and it’s hard to pin down the exact reason for this epidemic. A sedentary lifestyle, lack of exercise, smoking, drinking, obesity-related diseases and stress are all taking a toll on our men. The problem is exacerbated by the prudish nature of our society. Most men wouldn’t dare go to a doctor to discuss the problem which leads to a lot of unhappiness and self-image issues among men.
Penis image issues
For some reason the modern man has become obsessed about his penis. He worries about its length, girth, inclination, colour and contour to an extent that borders on the psychotic. Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that Indian men don’t get to see a lot of penises. In other cultures like America or even parts of Asia, it’s normal for people to shower naked and for men to see other men and realise that their penis is perfectly normal but this doesn’t happen in India. Having seen only penises in porn, men start to believe that all of us should be endowed with penises that look big enough to kill people.
Most men seem to think that they suffer one of the following ejaculation issues – premature, delayed or none at all. Premature ejaculation is a very common problem or at least the perception of it is. Most people have this notion that they are supposed to last in bed for forty minutes or something like they show on porn movies (which are unreal and fabricated) but the truth is that most men ejaculate within three or five minutes of penetration. Expecting to last 40 minutes like porn stars is akin to expecting to fly after watching Superman. Delayed or no ejaculation is another problem that’s common to men. Some of these men have no trouble ejaculating while masturbating but fail to ejaculate while having sex. This can cause great discomfort to them if they lose their erection before ejaculating and it makes them feel that sex is incomplete.
Along with ejaculation another sore issue seems to be the length of the act. And again we have the porn-induced illusions that vaginal intercourse is supposed to last for at least one hour. Most men don’t realize that porn is fabricated and expect similar situations. There’s also the inability to realize that there’s far more to sex than vaginal intercourse.
Most of our sex problems are caused by either unrealistic expectations of sex what should be like or due to unhealthy lifestyle habits. Simply exercising and quitting smoking and drinking can greatly improve your sex life. If your problem still persists you can get in touch with a sex therapist, even the experts on this site.